On the other day when I was waiting for my train, I saw a young mom with her child of 8 years. The child and the mother were engaged in a conversation when all of a sudden, the child screamed in full public glare, “I don’t want you, I don’t want you mom”. The child was uncontrollable and it was obvious it was impossible to make him listen. Why is that the present day kids are louder in their protest? How do we make them listen?
It’s important to realize that present day scenarios are different when compared to our parent’s time. The child of today will not follow the list of guidelines imposed by us, may be they worked when our parents used them on us!! It’s important to communicate to kids properly so that kids listen to what we say. The success of effective parenting begins by analyzing and decoding how kids decipher our thoughts and action.
On the parental side, we could help ourselves and our kids by planning a list of things – how we handle kids basically is an internal reflection of how we handle our emotions during a crunch situation. Our emotions find their way to kids through our words. How do we use these words so that kids listen to us? Effective communication through enforceable statements always helps our kids. The parent expresses the behavioral expectation to the child without using any threatening words, without being angry or bore them with long sermons. For example, in the above situation the parent could have calmed the child using words like: “Child, I am here to listen, but I want to hear your soft voice”. How do you talk to kids when they disturb while you talk on phone? “I will ready to hear you when I am done with the phone” How do you react to undue expectations? “I will let you know after a word with your dad/ mom” How do you tackle children talking back, “I will be happy to help when I feel respected”
Try this amazing methodology and enjoy parenting!! After all, its fun to be around with kids!
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